Thursday, June 30, 2011

Bradley Class #8

Sean got to lead the relaxation technique this week. This was a challenge for Sean because he is pretty shy in groups. He did so well though! The technique this week was sensory recall. The coach guides the mother through a pleasant experience recalling all of the five senses. This helps her keep her mind on happy relaxing things during a contraction. Sean talked about our honeymoon and how great it was to just be the two of us with nothing to worry about and the long walks we would go on at night. It was really relaxing.

The class was centered around writing our birth plan. A birth plan is a statement of your preferences for the birth of your baby.  A copy of the birth plan is to be given to our doctor to read and put in our chart. Also we are told that it is best to bring copies to the hospital on the day I go into labor so that every person involved in the birth will be aware of what we want. Of course the main goal is to have a happy healthy baby. Although Sean and I both want and are preparing for a natural labor and birth we realize that complications could occur and that our plans may have to be changed depending on the situation. So it is important to address emergencies in the birth plan as well and how we would like the doctor to handle those situations. It is suggested that as we write our birth plan that we are careful to phrase things in a positive and polite way rather than making it a list of demands. This will make the hospital staff more at ease with working with us. No one wants to work with someone that makes them think they know better than them. For this reason instead of titling our birth plan as such we are titling it "Our Birth Wishes". This gives it a non threatening appeal.

In class we went over our many options to do with labor and birth. Then we were told to talk them over with each other (spouses) and decide which things are our priorities. Sean and I discussed all of our options and made a list of things we have decided are important to us in the labor and birth. Then we wrote out our birth plan. We plan to have it for our next (not the one tomorrow) doctors appointment and go over it with him. During childbirth, many women feel like they are losing control. Having this plan helps me to feel confident and in control and I know that if anything unexpected happens I will feel part of the decision making. I sure hope everything goes as planned! Here is our birth plan:


Birth Wishes
Mother-to-be: Deana Ann Howell                              Father-to-be: Sean Howell
Obstetrician:   Dr. Hazzelrigg                                    Due Date:  August 8th 2011  

This birth plan expresses our preferences and desires for the birth of our baby. We fully realize
that situations may arise such that our plan cannot and should not be followed. Thank you for making this a memorable and positive experience for us.    

First Stage (Labor):
-Request all natural birth, no medication of any kind unless medically necessary
-Would prefer Heparin lock instead of IV
-Request wireless monitoring
-Please do not offer pain medications unless medically necessary
-I would prefer not to have waters broken until I am 8cm dilated
-Would prefer to keep vaginal exams to a minimum
-Would like access to shower or bath
-Maintain mobility (walking, rocking, up to bathroom, etc.)
-Eat and Drink to comfort
-Would like music provided by Husband in room
-Positioning as desired
-Hope to have my husband, mother, and two sisters present during labor and delivery
Induction and Augmentation:
- I would prefer to use natural methods to start labor
-I would prefer to walk and use natural methods to speed labor
Second Stage (Birth):
-Please allow me to change positions and try squatting, I would prefer not to be lying flat
-I prefer not to have an episiotomy unless absolutely required for the baby's safety
-No vacuum or forceps if they can be avoided
-Discuss in advance procedures to be performed
-I prefer my mother or sisters to support my legs when pushing
Baby Care:
-I do not want an injection of pitocin after the delivery to aid in expelling the placenta
-Delay the cord cutting until after the cord has stopped pulsating
-Place baby on mother’s chest, skin to skin
-Wait to do weight and measurements until after baby has first feeding
-Breast-feeding only, no formula supplements please
-I would like to have the baby evaluated in my presence
-I would like to meet with a Lactation Consultant
-I would like the baby to be circumcised before checking out of the hospital
If an Emergency Cesarean Birth is necessary:
- Spinal/epidural anesthesia
-Husband present
- Explain the surgery as it is happening
- Place the baby on the mother’s chest before taking it away
- If separation is necessary then the father will stay with the baby at all times
- Please perform a low transverse incision in the uterus
- Please keep in mind our desires for a VBAC with any future pregnancies
- Please use a double-layer stitch for the repair of the uterus
If Baby is Sick:
-Breast-feeding as soon as possible
- Unlimited visitation for parents
- If the baby is transported to another facility, move us as soon as possible  

 

Sunday, June 26, 2011

How Much Does It Cost to Have a Baby?

As you know it is different for every family how much money ends up being spent on having a child. It all depends on many factors: Insurance coverage, birth plan, if this is the first child in the family or not, how much is given or donated by friends and family, financial situation, government or church help. I'm sure you can think of others as well but those are the ones that come to my mind right now. My friend Jessica was curious as to how much Sean and I spent on getting ready for Noah. I have been keeping a list since finding out we were pregnant of the money spent on each item to do with pregnancy and preparing to have a child. So for all you inquiring minds here is the chart.The items we were given or lent still have a price of what it would have cost us had we bought it. Some of them don't have a price because I don't know how much it actually cost. This chart can be used if you would like to see what you might want to prepare for in the future for having a baby. You can easily add or take off any item on our list to see what you would do for your own family. Or if you already had a baby you can just compare. I welcome comments on how much you spent. It won't be the same for every family. Like I said above, its different for everyone. I'm sure there are ways we could have spent less or more. I'm also very sure that we spent money on things that we didn't have to have but we wanted therefore they were worth the extra cost to us. This is obviously just the start up cost. As you know after birth babies still require things like food, school, clothes and many other things. This is just the tip of the iceberg. -


COST
ITEM
ESSENTIAL
GIVEN/
BOUGHT
Notes
$16
2 pairs Shoes, Books
N
B
Deseret Industries
$20
3 Month Clothing
N
B
Deseret Industries
$300
Bradley Class
Y
B
Natural Birth Class
$100
Crib
Y
G

$69.99
High Chair
Y
G

$159
Stroller & Carseat
Y
B
Babies R US
$100
Dresser
Y
B
Craigslist
$114
Bedding Set
Y
B
Amazon
$70
Bookshelf
N
B
Amazon
$68
Crib Mattress
Y
G

$365
Cloth Diapers
Y
B

$200
Clothing 0-2yrs Old
Y
G

$253
Prenatal Care
Y
B
Before Insurance
changed we had to
pay a deductible.
 Now Its 100% covered
$0 Insurance
Covered
Labor and Delivery
Y
B
Depends on
Insurance Coverage,
where you deliver

Circumcision
Y
B
Insurance doesn't cover this
$41.37
Wall Decals
N
B
Amazon
$26
2 Closet Organizers
N
B
Target
$24
4 Storage Bins for Clothes
N
B
Target

Bath Tub
Y
G

$11
Curtain
Y
B
Homemade w/ Table Cloth
$279
Breast Pump
Y
G

$40
Diaper Bag
Y
G
Mom made this
$56
Clothesline
N
B
To Dry Cloth Diapers
$26
Bottles
Y
G

$27.44
Baby Monitor
N
B

$62.99
Take along swing
N
G

$22.99
Johnson's Bathtime Set
Y
B

$179
Kodak PlayTouch
N
B
To take pictures and record Noah
$19.69
Health Kit Safety First Deluxe
Y
B

$7.99
Safety 1st Secure View Mirror
N
B
For car to see in back seat
$10.99
Safety 1st Roller shade 2 pack
N
B

$44.99
Ultrasoft baby Carrier
N
G

$15.99
Hamper
Y
B


Sweater & Booties
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$10.99
Baby Ruler
N
G
Baby Shower Gift
$12.99
Changing Pad
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$95
Bedding Set
N
G
Baby Shower Gift

Blessing Outfit
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$37
Shopping Cart Cover
N
G
Baby Shower Gift

Swaddle Blankets
N
G
Baby Shower Gift
$19.99
Tub Toys
N
G
Baby Shower Gift

Block Set
N
G
Baby Shower Gift

Bibs
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift

Onesies
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift

Clothing 0-2yrs Old
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$35
Blankets
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$12.99
Car Mirror
N
G
Baby Shower Gift
$7.99
Safety Plugs
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$20
Wash Clothes
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$15
Sippy Cups
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$67
Bouncer
N
G
Baby Shower Gift
$33.48
Fold Up Play Gym
N
G
Baby Shower Gift
$57
2000 Wipes
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$10
Rattles
N
G
Baby Shower Gift
$15
Towels
Y
G
Baby Shower Gift
$12.74
Bottle Drying Rack
N
G
Baby Shower Gift










Total: $3207.60



Actually Spent By Us: $1840.46




 We were so surprised when we saw the total! I can't believe we have spent that much money. I didn't even know we had that much money at one point. Heavenly Father has truly blessed us abundantly. A special thank you goes to my older sister Amanda and her husband Corey. They have been so generous to us through this entire pregnancy. My niece is 18 months and no longer needs most of the baby stuff they have and so they have either given or lent us most of the things we have for Noah. It is a great system we have in place. Sean and I will use the stuff until Noah no longer needs it and then give it back to Amanda and Corey when they have their next child and it will just go back and forth from there. Genius right?! Yes I agree. The idea of having a baby might be intimidating when you see those kinds of numbers but it is definitely worth every penny. It doesn't make sense on paper, looking back at past bills and expenses compared to our income we can't figure out where the money came from to buy all the things needed but somehow it worked out. Sean and I are so grateful to all those who have given to help us. We know we couldn't have be as prepared as we are with out our friends and family and most of all our Heavenly Father.